Why are we so careless with our love. We give it away freely, to another, when we neglect our husbands and wives. We let other other people sleep in our beds while our spouses are away. We get tangled up in a web we can not break free from until everything we have is teetering on a fence on which both sides means death. Death of a marriage, demise of family, you are killing your spirit and possibly career, many things are on the brink of destruction. WHY are we so CARELESS with our love. I watch many people inching closer and closer to the person they should be running from. I see potential harm looming in the horizon am I destined to fear the future because of the past. Some say it's not gonna be, I would never... bullshit. I stopped looking so I won’t see what’s coming and maybe they won’t crash into each other maybe they will be what each other needs in an innocent way. Friends? Maybe. Lovers? Indefinitely? Yes, not infidelity, indefinitely...meaning it usually does not last. Why do we do it, murder each other, give our love away. The person who needs it, deserves it, works hard to keep it, ends up choked up, screaming, in pain, devastated. Some lose rank, others lose sleep, their sanity and meanwhile all is takes is a moment...there is always that moment, that second...”do I answer the call?”, “do I go to their house?”, “do I take my tongue out of their mouth?”, “ take my panties off?”, how about what happens before all of that...”do I start a relationship with this...person?”. Maybe we need to learn to stop it before it starts...why the hell we keep being so careless with our love??? It starts with a look, inappropriate banter, touching & kissing and the next thing you know it your naked. But not really, there is always a MOMENT and second, minute, days...but it is there, it’s always a before and then an after...We have to stop being so careless with our love, stop giving it away. We have to stop being so quick to open our hearts, minds or even just our pants to the wrong one...the destroyer.
I feel your words in this post.
ReplyDeleteSo many times people naturally are who they are because of what their life has brought them through. What their eyes have seen and ears have heard and mind has held as right and wrong. People stand in that gap in different ways. Some stand for condemnation and look to hell...some try to solve the problem and look to heaven for help. I believe that actual love rarely enters into the equation. Its think its more about comfort on one hand and not communicating on the other. This is a difficult subject that most folks are either left or right on. What should be addressed is the person as well as the act. What's really going on with these people? Do they even know? If they don't then how can we find out? I agree whole heartedly that the act is wrong. You definitely don't go around hurting the ones you love. But to condemn the person is to comndemn ourselves. Corruption is in every place. We all have come short. Communication is the key. This is an excellent post about the deepest of feelings and the widest of rifts. It would definitely qualify as a conversation piece. I am interested how much progress can be made to change people.
ReplyDeletePeople have to want to change, we can not change them. All we can do is be there for them when the time comes. People that do give love away to just anyon is looking for something that is missing in their life,and do not know the know what it to be relly loved.
ReplyDeleteSometimes we have to remember that someone's wrong action does not define their entire being. Another words, the things I did yesterday do not determine the person I am today. As human beings, we all fall short. If you believe in Christ then you know that we were all born with the Original Sin, therefore we are far from perfect. It's easy to love someone at their best. The challenge comes in when they fall short. God teaches us that unconditional love is loving someone regardless of their faults. I believe a person can change if he or she acknowledges his or her behavior as being detramental. Self evaluation, prayers,the support of your loved ones and self control are crutial in order for change to occur. It is our resposibility to help those we love better themselves and not to condemm them for their past mistakes. Change will never come to those who continue to display their toxic behaviors and continue to hurt those they profess to love. When this happens, it's best to love that person from a distance and keep it moving.
ReplyDeleteMaria S.
so true, so true! jenkins!
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